I know I whine about being pregnant and even about being a parent in general. I can see how it would rub some people the wrong way, I really do. I feel like I keep it to a low level “I love my kid, but she’s really pushing my buttons today”. I think that’s okay. It’s what I feel sometimes. Not all of the times. I never wish she wasn’t here, I don’t feel like I take granted for what I have with her, or with our new one. It’s nice to vent.
That being said, and knowing I’m tolerant to other’s whining about their pregnancy/children, don’t over do it, people.
Today, as I sat in a salon, I overheard a lady complaining to the extent that I thought to myself “why don’t you just give your kids to someone who wants them”?!??! It was that bad. I’m not sure I’ve ever found myself in front of a regular looking mother thinking that.
First of all, it’s clear I’m pregnant. Even men will ask about the baby. When men inquire about the bump, EVERYONE KNOWS YOU’RE PREGNANT.
Secondly, I sat in the chair next to the lady, so if she didn’t get a glimpse of my body blocking sunlight from the front window of the salon, she can see it now.
THIRD, my stylist made a comment about my pregnancy. So there it is, verbally confirmed that I am indeed, with child.
About 30 seconds into my sitting, the girl who is getting styled next to me starts to tell her stylist about her 2 children. (Picture a medium/high class looking lady with s wedding band on about to pay for a pricy hair coloring)
- “If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn’t have had a second because they’re terrible!!!!”
- “I should’ve learned with my first.”
- “They just scream ALL the time, I figured out after 3 months that they were just testing me.”
- “Nobody tells you how much they cry ALL THE TIME”
- “She just never wanted to latch on because she was stubborn and wanted more attention”
- “I thought about having another but then the second would have middle child syndrome and I really can’t deal with that, they just think it’s ALL about them, marsha marsha marsha!!!!”
- “I CAN SEE WHY PEOPLE TEND TO SHAKE BABIES AROUND 3-4 MONTHS OLD”
WHAT THE F?
(That’s only half of what she said because my pregnancy brain has kicked in)
Thoughts running through my head:
- “Should I just go shake HER…RIGHT NOW?”
- “Is she specifically talking about this because she saw I was pregnant?”
- “There’s no way she knows if it’s even my first baby!!!”
- “Where are her kids now?!”
Shortly after the 3 minute bashing of her babies, my stylist came back with my hair color and asked if this was my first baby. I just responded loudly with “No it’s not my first, but if it were, I would be scared to death after listening to these girls next to me!!”
Maybe I’m being overly judgmental. Maybe she was in a bad place and is normally a good person. I have bad days too. I have days that I will turn on a movie for Harper and go lay down because she’s just been overwhelming…but even in my most desperate, frustrated, sad times I’ve never ever ever ever ever thought about hurting her! EVER. I certainly would never joke about wanting to hurt her either!
That conversation is going to stick with me forever now. If her kids had heard the things she said, they would think Mommy hates them. I thought she hate them, and if she could just pack up and leave them, she would! I think if her kids get sick she probably just says they’re doing it to get attention and locks them in their room to tough it out!
If you ever catch me saying things about my children that would make it seem like I hate them, CALL ME OUT. Text or call me if you know me, email me if you don’t know me, comment on the blog if you don’t want to email! This lady needed a reality check from someone. I’d hope my people would check me quick!
Well, let me close with a picture of my toy-rich child.
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